Truly Great Friends

♥ We have all heard the expression that......

 Truly great FRIENDS are hard to find,

difficult to leave,

 and impossible to forget.

and that is TRUE, for some of your friends.  But what about those that you were friends with and all of the sudden in the middle of a mild argument, that friend uses everything you once shared with her, against you to bash you, (mind you, I believe noone should ever be ashamed about anything in their past, because at one point in their life it was what they wanted, unless ur past has to do with a tragic accident or crime towards you that was out of ur control, no history about yourself should ever be considered as a weapon towards you by someone else...) with stuff about my life, and history, my persona, as if they could break you with that, I dont think "she" knows how much I loved the times I have lived, I don't hide it, its quite the opposite, I actually share it.... since me and one of my close friends have a dream to write a book about it together. LOL. and yes, especially those times in my life that meant I shed tears and tears over someone *no regrets here*. 

 I believe everyone's history is a part of them and will always be, every action for good or ill that I made was something I had desired to do at that point, so no "fake friend" on mine can use MY LIFE against ME.
 A retaliation by a friend who uses YOUR LIFE as her weapon of choice as a defense isn't a friend to you at all, and never really was.
Those people can we considered an life-energy sucker, put on earth to suck the life out of their "friends" and piers, bcuz their is already SUCKED, and left to rotten. ALONE  

Some say, "through mistakes and argument is how you built character, that the reason behind the initiation of an argument simply means you are growing as an individual."

The friends that for whatever reason chooses to destroy everything that made them a friend to you up to that point are called the top layer friends, and we all have them, and hopefully we all lose them (thank god, cuz u wouldn't want that around you or the ones you care about anyway) in another words the friends you have for the shits & giggles, nothing too skin deep, until they STRIKE right at YOU!  Those are the ones that in a quick instant makes you reevaluate why you ever where friends with them in the first place, and making it clear to you why they are so miserable and lonely all the time.... HMMM

I pity them HER 

Her misery can't be contained, its all over her face, in her words, and actions

She makes friends through sorrow and pain

and as long as you can relate or understand what it is "she is feeling"

You are a friend,

but only because misery needs company

she seeks someone to share pain and sorrow with.

and the slight bit of happiness from you makes her angry

jealous, and a defensive beast
because you are no longer, in that pool of sorrow

drowning with her.

Shes a life sucker...

sucks the life out of you,

through your understanding of a hurtful story she lives
But alone, is where she belongs
and that is where she is

But that's just with the top-layer friends. And with those you get to really appreciate and be thankful for the truly great ones around, who is happy, positive and supportive in all the righteous ways.

The true beauty of a friendship is the real connection, the growth, the appreciation, the positivity you get from the person

Friends aren't just a source to "aid" to you,
Friends are actually THAT Someone you have can be yourself with

share your life

give advice

participate in special events

and simply be a special participant of my life

and a component of  WHO I AM

and who I BECAME.

My friends are a representation of me!

and though with truly great friends, oftentimes in lfie we changed because  we're all finding our own place in the world, we all know that when the tears fall or the smile spreads across our face, we'll come to each other because no matter where this crazy world takes us, nothing will ever change so much to the point where we're not all still FRIENDS.

The Right Friendship

So I have this best friend, and she's kinda of a BIG DEAL... And she often always inspires & motivates me... and this was one of the entries that was posted on her blog today, that I just had to have it on mine... and declare an UNofficial Friendship Day... :)

It is better to be alone than in the wrong company.

Tell me who your best friends are and I will tell you who you are.

If you run with wolves, you will learn how to howl.

But, if you associate with eagles, you will learn how to soar to great heights.

A mirror reflects a man’s face, but what he is really like is shown by the

kind of friends he chooses.

The simple but true fact of life is that you become like those with whom you closely associate for the good and the bad.

The less you associate with some people, the more your life will improve.

Any time you tolerate mediocrity in others, it increases your mediocrity.

An important attribute in successful people is their impatience with negative thinking and negative acting people.

As you grow, your associates will change.

Some of your friends will not want you to go on.

They will want you to stay where they are.

Friends that don't help you climb will want you to crawl.

Your friends will stretch your vision or choke your dream.

Those that don't increase you will eventually decrease you.

Consider this:

Never receive counsel from unproductive people.

Never discuss your problems with someone incapable of contributing

to the solution, because those who never succeed themselves are

always first to tell you how.

Not everyone has a right to speak into your life.

You are certain to get the worst of the bargain when you exchange ideas with

the wrong person.

Don't follow anyone who's not going anywhere.

With some people you spend an evening: with others you invest it.

Be careful wherever you stop to inquire for directions along the road of life.

Wise is the person who fortifies his life with the right friendships.

Miles apart but together at heart, I love you LB; (no homo)

Some Friends Are Forever

Friendships are meant to last, and if you can't seem to get a friend to stick around you for longer than a season, than maybe reevaluating yourself as a friend is the first step... I saw this on the Internet and thought it was a genuine list of steps on steps of help people, make friends and stay friends.  But even if you are considered an awesome friend by many, it still fun to read these steps.... So here goes the set of "instructions.." Share it with friends and family... It is always good to refresh everyone memories of the little effort it takes to have A friend and BE a friend.

Instructions:

Step 1

Be there for them when they need you, not when you need something from them. Good friends don't call up people only to request a favor. While knowing people that can help you out is important, it's equally important not to abuse the relationship. Focus on what your friend is going through at the moment. Are they happy? A little lonely? Maybe they need to talk about their kid going away to college or the fact that they are worried about their in-laws. Whatever the situation, put yourself second and listen to what's being said directly and implied in their conversations.

Step 2

Don't wait for friends to call you. Make an effort to keep in touch with people. Everyone is busy, but if you want to maintain good friendships you should be proactive about communications. It doesn't mean you have to sit on the phone for two hours a day, but it does mean you send an email, a card, or give them a quick call to let them know you're thinking about them.

Step 3

Respond to them in a timely manner. There's nothing more frustrating than sending a friend an email or note, and having them ignore it because they are "too busy." Everyone is busy. If someone is your friend, you make the effort to be kind to them. Responding to their questions and requests is one way you can do that.

Step 4

Don't be part of the gossip train. Bad mouthing people you call friends is one of the worst things you can do. Don't be catty or talk about them behind their backs. Don't hang out with someone just so you can go back to someone else and talk about your friend. Decide if you are someone's friend, or not, and act accordingly.

Step 5

Be happy for them. It may sound ridiculous, but some folks just can't be happy at their friend's successes. Don't be someone that's only in for complaining about life. When your friend hits it big - celebrate with them. When they're interviewing for a new job - pull for them. When they want to find love - be gracious and supportive when they find it. There is nothing better in the world than having people that support and care about you. Go out of your way to show your support for your friend.