No More Anger, Just Disappointment

"Friends...

How many of us have them...?

Friends...

The ones we can depend on...

Friends...."

They are not difficult to find...For God created us as social beings, but they are not easy to maintain

In my 25 years of life, I can comfortably say I had a ton of friends.  Many of those were what I like to call "seasonal friends" they came, and they left but a special few have stayed permanent.  Nevertheless, they all meant something to me.  Each and everyone have served a purpose in my life and left their mark. (negative or positive).

I am not going to stay I am a perfect friend or that I seek perfection out of my friends [[[Oh far from that]]] because in life some of the best memories are derived from making terribly wrong decisions with your friends by your side to laugh and get you through it.

But as woman, we gain and lose twice as much as friends then men....I get it, we are emotional creatures (Blame half of that on our period)... We have mood swings...We can be catty...We gossip a lot... We pick sides....We even sometimes judge people based on others opinion, and not our own, but at the end we are all searching for the same thing.  We are vulnerable and sensitive human beings looking for love, acceptance and a sense of belonging.

We not only want to strive to be the "IT" woman to ourselves, but we also want others to see us as that too,

(So we got two people to please, ourselves and others). But a friendship shouldn't be a competition. Real friends shouldn't care what purse you are wearing or how much your shoe cost, or how many parties you have RSVP to....So stop showcasing your "socialite skills, and expensive goods" to your friends. Real friends only care about your well-being, in friendship there shouldn't be leader and a follower.  Friends should walk side by side.

Sometimes, I reminisce on friendships I had in the past, some more important and significant then others

I CAN NOT say I have been a bad friend.  The friends I had were truly people I admired (and even looked up too, in some aspects of life) and was happy to be part in their lives but due to a falling out because of disagreements even betrayal you are forced to split ways

I know the people that are not in my life anymore has their own side of the story to why we are not friends

as I have mine, each side supporting and defending our own actions and character... But things gets easier with time and you must always remember there is no repairing a broken friendship.  And it is best  to say goodbye.

And after awhile of ignoring them, we get tired of being angry

and instead we feel sad,

We get reminded once in a while , 
why we are not talking in the first place

But....there comes a time in your life, 
where there is no more anger 
just DISAPPOINTMENT 

and for that that friendship can never be reconciled

And that is a sad truth!

  

Nothing Will Ever Change

In my life,
I am always moving around,

city to city

state to state

country to country

and it gives me a warm and happy feeling to know

the bonds I have formed

the friends I have made

will always remain

No matter where I am

or where I go

Distance is never a cause of a

lost friendship.

My friends are the best

truly loyal to me

and

I thank them for it

Never Forget Your Friends

My grandma sent this chain e-mail to me, and although I am not a fan of chain e-mail, this one stood out to me, because FRIENDS, are people I truly respect admire and keep around me. and this email explains a little more on the importance of a friendship.... here it goes...

A newlywed man was sitting on a couch in a hot humid day, drinking iced tea during a visit to his father's house. As they talked about life, marriage, responsibilities, obligations and duties of adulthood, the father clinked the ice cubes in your glass when it launched a clear, sober glance to his son, and said:

Never forget your friends! -" they will be more important as you get older. Regardless of how much you love your family, the children you may have, you always need friends. Remember to occasionally go places with them, have fun in their company; phone them once in a while ... "

"-What a strange random advice" - thought the young man. "I just enter the world of marriage. I am an adult. Certainly my wife and my family will be all I need to give meaning to my life!"

However, he followed the advice of his father. Kept in touch with your friends and always looking to make new friends. As far as the years passed, he realized that his father was right. To the extent that time and nature work their changes and their mysteries upon the man, his friends have always been strongholds in your life. After more than 50 years, this is what the youth learned:
  

Time passes.
Life happens.
The distance separating ...
Children grow up.
Jobs come and go.
Love turns into affection.
People do not do what they should do.
The heart stops without warning.
Parents die.
Colleagues forget favors.
Careers end.
But true friends are there, no matter how long or how many miles away. A friend is the scope of a necessity, for cheering for you up, intervening on your behalf, and waiting for you with open arms and blessing your life !

 When we began this adventure called LIFE, do not know of the incredible joys and sorrows that we experience at the front, and we have no good idea of how much we need each other ... But as we reached the end of life, we know very well how each was important to us!

The Right Friendship

So I have this best friend, and she's kinda of a BIG DEAL... And she often always inspires & motivates me... and this was one of the entries that was posted on her blog today, that I just had to have it on mine... and declare an UNofficial Friendship Day... :)

It is better to be alone than in the wrong company.

Tell me who your best friends are and I will tell you who you are.

If you run with wolves, you will learn how to howl.

But, if you associate with eagles, you will learn how to soar to great heights.

A mirror reflects a man’s face, but what he is really like is shown by the

kind of friends he chooses.

The simple but true fact of life is that you become like those with whom you closely associate for the good and the bad.

The less you associate with some people, the more your life will improve.

Any time you tolerate mediocrity in others, it increases your mediocrity.

An important attribute in successful people is their impatience with negative thinking and negative acting people.

As you grow, your associates will change.

Some of your friends will not want you to go on.

They will want you to stay where they are.

Friends that don't help you climb will want you to crawl.

Your friends will stretch your vision or choke your dream.

Those that don't increase you will eventually decrease you.

Consider this:

Never receive counsel from unproductive people.

Never discuss your problems with someone incapable of contributing

to the solution, because those who never succeed themselves are

always first to tell you how.

Not everyone has a right to speak into your life.

You are certain to get the worst of the bargain when you exchange ideas with

the wrong person.

Don't follow anyone who's not going anywhere.

With some people you spend an evening: with others you invest it.

Be careful wherever you stop to inquire for directions along the road of life.

Wise is the person who fortifies his life with the right friendships.

Miles apart but together at heart, I love you LB; (no homo)

Some Friends Are Forever

Friendships are meant to last, and if you can't seem to get a friend to stick around you for longer than a season, than maybe reevaluating yourself as a friend is the first step... I saw this on the Internet and thought it was a genuine list of steps on steps of help people, make friends and stay friends.  But even if you are considered an awesome friend by many, it still fun to read these steps.... So here goes the set of "instructions.." Share it with friends and family... It is always good to refresh everyone memories of the little effort it takes to have A friend and BE a friend.

Instructions:

Step 1

Be there for them when they need you, not when you need something from them. Good friends don't call up people only to request a favor. While knowing people that can help you out is important, it's equally important not to abuse the relationship. Focus on what your friend is going through at the moment. Are they happy? A little lonely? Maybe they need to talk about their kid going away to college or the fact that they are worried about their in-laws. Whatever the situation, put yourself second and listen to what's being said directly and implied in their conversations.

Step 2

Don't wait for friends to call you. Make an effort to keep in touch with people. Everyone is busy, but if you want to maintain good friendships you should be proactive about communications. It doesn't mean you have to sit on the phone for two hours a day, but it does mean you send an email, a card, or give them a quick call to let them know you're thinking about them.

Step 3

Respond to them in a timely manner. There's nothing more frustrating than sending a friend an email or note, and having them ignore it because they are "too busy." Everyone is busy. If someone is your friend, you make the effort to be kind to them. Responding to their questions and requests is one way you can do that.

Step 4

Don't be part of the gossip train. Bad mouthing people you call friends is one of the worst things you can do. Don't be catty or talk about them behind their backs. Don't hang out with someone just so you can go back to someone else and talk about your friend. Decide if you are someone's friend, or not, and act accordingly.

Step 5

Be happy for them. It may sound ridiculous, but some folks just can't be happy at their friend's successes. Don't be someone that's only in for complaining about life. When your friend hits it big - celebrate with them. When they're interviewing for a new job - pull for them. When they want to find love - be gracious and supportive when they find it. There is nothing better in the world than having people that support and care about you. Go out of your way to show your support for your friend.